This also means if it gets to painful and you need to stop, it’s much easier for you to stop.

Also, GiveLube Super Think Anal Lube is another good recommendation, as it’s thicker and has added Aloe for softness. LUBE, LUBE and MORE LUBE! HERBAL/FRUIT TEA - I don’t know about you, but when I’m feeling stressed - a nice soothing chamomile or fruit tea usually calms me down and helps me feel much more relaxed.
Heuristics like this are fast and don’t appeal to conscious rational deliberation. TAKE A BATH - Like a massage, a nice long hot soak in the tub can really help relax the body and mind. You need to take it SLOW and be patient. In order to make it as comfortable as possible, you need to ensure things stay plenty slippery.
As you get used to the sensations, you can start to experience with different positions, until you find the one that really works for you - but that’s part of the fun - experiment and try out different things - but I would always recommend ‘on top’ if it’s your first time receiving.